Food addictions, shopping addiction, drug addictions, emotional hanger, chronic anxiety, habits that hurt us or others, unhealthy lifestyles…Do people have the responsibility to change? It’s the topic of this video.
It’s one thing to be who you are today, which is the cumulation of all your past actions, habits, and external influences up to this point. But moving forward, is it your responsibility to change when you roughly know what needs to be done?
You hear this often, this person and his behavior is who he is, or this is who I am, you must take me at my best and worst, so what, does it mean we cannot change, improve our lives for the better? in any aspect we choose to? If people can deteriorate or improve in all walks of life, it’s because we are flexible, the human body and brain is plastic, we are not robots who can’t reprogram themselves when needed.
When it comes to nutrition, fitness, and wellbeing, I think each of us as humans need to become fully responsible for improving in those key areas, mainly because our happiness is linked to wellbeing but also for the world. Imagine if each of us looked deeply within and made an effort to improve our emotional mind, our nutrition, fitness, how will that impact the world at large.
We all want others to improve, racists need to change, the police need to change, murderers and criminals need to change, haters need to change, angry people, bullies, but how about us.
This is where Jesus saying of “Let anyone among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at those who sin”…is super relevant…
Obesity cost the economy 190 billion a year
Mental Health cost 200 billion a years
Back and Neck pain cost 87.6 Billion a year
Cardiovascular diseases cost 328 billion a year, project to be 800 billion by 2030
These four big issues can all be reduced if individually, we take full responsibility for our emotional and physical states. Locally that will make our live drastically better, our interaction with people around us kinder, healthier and at the Macro level, the country will be able to allocate more capital and human resources to other issues, improving education, infrastructures, roads, fast trains, better transportation, addressing homelessness, which drastically increased after the defunding of psychiatric hospitals all around the US in the 1970s…or helping rehabilitate people in prison, which is now the largest psychiatric institution in the country.
This is how improving your well being can achieve at a micro and macro level. How much energy are we spending looking for other people to do something for society? our voice matters, but our actions, improving ourselves is even better.
Now, let’s bring the conversation back to your direct wellbeing. If we all look at our lives and times where our behavior was self-destructive or hurt someone we care about, we can all agree that if we had more control over destructive emotions like anger, jealousy, hatred, which can erupt under many situation we face…our happiness and those of others would be better off…or if we successfully transitioned to healthy nutrition and fitness lifestyle, our well being will be much better.
Simple, but far from easy. Improving our emotional and physical states doesn’t happen overnight. Stopping food urges and unhealthy habits doesn’t happen in 3 months…Getting rid of anger or fear once and for all seems almost inhuman. How many times people say they will not get angry again yet it keeps happening.
It’s possible as millions of people have shown but it takes commitment and consistency. The moment you take full responsibility and put it into action, you can start this shift, this transformation today.
Social media and the news have people thinking that someone else needs to change the world, Gucci needs to do this, Biden needs to that, Jeff besoz needs to this. All these people are human just like you. We are all part of a biological ecosystem which means that each of us can influence and reshape this system.
But if you turn the focus on yourself, you realize quickly how hard changing for the better is, I know people who are super vocal about all the changes that government needs to do, but they cannot even eat healthy consistently and be more at peace within. This is one of the best contributions you can make to existence and society, be healthy, at peace within…which will all be reflected in your behavior and interaction with other parts of this eco-system. You first need to be fit in order to serve.
If you don’t have the time, energy, or resource to directly change the system at large, start at home. The same way the American economy depends on small businesses, the same way people, individually can reshape the dynamic of the system.
That’s what the meaning of the butterfly effect is, we are in a biological system, every single part has an effect on the system at large. So are you contributing to making the system healthier, better, or are you a pain point in this system, are you a headache.
The human body is a system, and you know if your ankle is hurting, the whole body’s mood shift downward…so in the same manner, If you are physically in trouble, the whole is also in trouble.
You being emotionally, physically stable, being at peace within, relaxed and balanced is removing one problem from the hand of mother nature.
Now, as I said in many videos, none of this self-improvement will happen if we are not aware of key areas we need to improve. You get angry at someone, your anxiety is making you less sharp, your nutritional habits are making you gain weight, get sick or lose your vitality, you first have to be fully aware of these areas your need to improve before you can take care of them.
In the midst of anger, anxiety, emotional eating, we often feel powerless, it’s happening already. But there are times where we are more clear-minded, this is when we can start to apply the antidotes to destructive habits when we can make improvements to our minds.
You don’t try to learn a new move during a game or a fight. It’s when everything is more relaxed, that you can work on improving yourself.
I am currently reading some books on the culture of consumption we currently live in, what is our ecological footprint, we all seem to always want more. This is pretty relevant to fitness, nutrition, and mental health because one of the reasons why people want to buy more stuff is due to the belief that they will directly be happier or indirectly because of how their status in the eyes of others will rise. Evolutionary psychologists call this signaling.
If the rest of the world consumed as much the US, we would need 5 planets to make it work. This is another element to help you become aware of your responsibility to change, to reassess how your behavior impacts the world at large.
It’s cheap and easy to talk about global warming, about the destruction of the amazonian forest, about the bad cartels, about children working in factories in Asia, but what can you personally do about it? Reduce your consumption.
Do you really need that many clothes, that many shoes, do we really need to eat that much? all these elements can be improved individually. 1.6 billion people go to sleep overweight every night when 800 million people go to sleep starving. 40% of the food in the US is wasted…how many resources going toward making this food is wasted just like that.
We are all part of the system, your behavior can reshape the system because it’s a feedback loop, consuming less, buying less material things will send a message to manufacturing companies, the butterfly effect, we can create a tsunami of change one person at a time. There is no need to wait for someone else to start, you can start today because this will first and foremost increase your well being and overall happiness.
I don’t need you to change the way you eat, improving my nutrition and mental state is enough to myself.
I started thinking about my personal responsibility in this world back in college. And weirdly, it was not because I care about the world like a hippy for example, it’s because I looked at my priorities, what will really make me genuinely happy and realized that by improving my health and well being, I would automatically help move the world, in a better direction.
By eating healthy, I’m helping the country and healthcare system, and maybe being an inspiration to someone around me or to the next generation.
By making sure I improve my emotions, my mind, I’m more at peace, balanced and relaxed within, which helps me reduce the need for more material things.
In my first years of college, I had 10 to 20 Jordan sneakers, more than 30 hats, all kinds of clothes…and by the time I finished college, I was and still wear this black t-shirt almost every day.
After college, I sold every single pair of shoes and hats I had. Today I wear the same black sneakers, all year long, I have 5 pairs of the same shoes.
This shift in my life didn’t happen because I wanted to save the world, no, it happened because I started to improve my health, mental and physical, and the need to buy all this extra stuff just went away. The more at ease, fit, and healthy you are, the better you feel in your skin, the less material things you need outside.
Now, when I’m reading all these books on consumerism, ecological footprint, and how we are robbing future generations, it’s getting easier for me to follow those solutions because I’m feeling better within. And I can totally understand the appeal of consumerism, looking back at my younger self because my mind wasn’t in the same place as it is today, I made a commitment to make it better.
I used to have a list of countries I would love to visit, you know how everybody today wants to visit every corner of the planet, but after reading about ecological footprints, I changed my mind in this area.
There was a passage in a book where the author said how foolish are people traveling to other corners of the planet to go lay on a beach. When you have some great beach around us here, in the Caribbean or even within the US.
If you tell me that for the rest of my life, I’m not allowed to leave the United state, I would be fine with it. Because traveling to exotic locations is not going to trigger a new positive emotion in my mind I don’t have access to here, right now.
So to summarize this video, it’s about asking yourself if you have the responsibility to change, first change for your own wellbeing and betterment, and second for your environment, family and entourage, community, country, and the world at large.
We live in an interconnected system. Your fitness, nutrition, mental health are the cornerstones of a happy life and a better world. It’s up to you